I received a phone call the other day. A reporter was asking me if I would collaborate on an item about female positive erotica.
Because I wrote a book, short erotic stories, didn’t I?
And since I’m a woman, it seems logic that I adjust myself towards other women? He ventured encouragingly.
And not to forget, I’m leading a BDSM organisation, that means I’m questioning female repression, don’t I?
I solemnly scratched my chin, and if his exposé wouldn’t be devoided of any humour, I would have asked him who was pulling my leg.
In order to keep the adrenalin going, let’s start at the beginning. I don’t write erotic stories. I write BDSM porn. A quite improvable genre, if you ask me. Please check out the internet, if you won’t take my word on it.
To be frank, I’m a porn fan. Porn is an interesting exercise in exploring the roles of exhibitionists and voyeurs. I love those sweaty tits & asses and get a lot of inspiration out of an undressed postman or a pizza delivery gone wild.
Keeping this in mind, it couldn’t surprise you that I didn’t need a lot of encouragement to do some research on the subject of female positive porn in both literature and movies.
Quite soon, Oscar Wilde kept popping in my head: “There are no such things as moral or immoral books. There are just good or badly written books”.
Indulge me to rephrase that quote into “There is no such thing as male or female porn. There is just good or bad porn.”
Is it after all just some kind of marketing stunt to glue the “from women towards women” label?
Asking my girlfriends, I could merely grin because without even the slightest sign of uneasiness, they told me their preferebilities.
Girlfriend number 1 loves straight man-on-woman porn but loves it when one man gets replaced by another without a blink of an eye. Number 2, very hetero in day life, prefers gay movies with a lot of use of leather masks. And finally girlfriend number 3 admits that the “Strap-on” category on Porn hub is a regular stop on her sexual surfing itinerary.
So I wonder, are those “likes” male or female? The only solution I can filter is that there is no such thing. Not only are we talking about a non existing phenomenon, I also get quite sad to think of it, that a lot of people find it necessary to make that kind of difference.
It shows that the combo man-woman-sex, is a lost case and that both sexes will never understand each others needs.
A very depressing thought, if you ask me.
A few weeks ago, we received an invitation for an event called “A sultry Sunday soiree with Madison Young”.
The pregnant porn and fetish actress made an Amsterdam stop before heading towards the porn festival in Berlin. In a lovely villa, in the presence of 50 other invitees, we listened to her lecture about Fempositive porn. A number 1 item on her companies’ mission statement.
No cuddling, nor some girlyness towards our sensitive and easily shocked women’s hearts, but a fight for the rights of female porn stars. The necessity of giving those women enough ànd clear information about the do’s and don’ts in porn industry and the consequences on their personal lives. And especially (and I like this one) their right of also having an orgasm during a movie shot.
It was no tongue in cheek lecture but an honest approach towards gender quote in the industry.
And yes, that’s what I call a positive evolution. Equal sex rights for men and women. And not some shot in the dark from a supposable clever marketing boy.
