In order to be irreplaceable, be different.

Sometimes people ask me if I can provide them with a play partner, or if I can introduce them to someone who can help them with their sexual needs once in a while.

If I ever would get frustrated on an issue, it would be about my inability to help on this subject.
Mind you, till now, BDSM is still a forbidden action in Belgium and although it’s quite seldom that there’s an exchange of body fluids during a professional Sm session, the action itself is still catalogued as prostitution.
And now we’re at it; Belgian law often looks the other way regarding prostitution but convicts pimps quite hush. Therefore, I’d risk a one way ticket towards prison if I would let you know where to start with your experimental journey towards physical happiness.

After reading this resume, I guess it doesn’t surprise you that I keep feeling a little itch going through my veins thinking about the most exquisite escort service ever. A service ran with an open vision towards either the customers as their sex workers. Let me share a dream with you: Imagine, She, looking like Rita Hayworth, carrying little Chanel nipple clamps in her purse and He, wearing Tom Ford and a face that gets you on your knees with a blink of his eyes. They enter your hotel lounge with their little suitcase, looking like you average expensive secretary but instead of bringing their books and pens; they move all kind of toys that will bring you on top of the stairway to your personal heaven.

And yes, they are both extremely educated in the art of ‘Torture and Hug’. Because let me be frank, there is nothing more terrifying than a Sm session with someone who’s trying to be at their best. Therefore, He and She followed a course on how to take action in a room that isn’t fit for the purpose (for example a hotel room with no St. Andreas cross or hooks and angles fixed on the wall).
They know how to be sexy, discreet, dominant and seductive without anyone’s notice but your own.

You like? Well, if somebody out there would be so kind of changing the law a little bit, just an itchy bit, so I can get it started. I would be most obliged. Thank you.

Nieuwsbrief/Newsletter 4

Beste leden van La Maîtresse du Pirate,

(for English : scroll down)

Onze tweede filmvoorstelling, in Filmhuis De Klappei, is achter de rug, en opnieuw kan ik kan u vertellen dat het meer dan leuk was.

Op vrijdag 17 december geven we u “L’Empire des Sens”. Een film die zich afspeelt in het vooroorlogse Japan. Een waargebeurd verhaal van een dienster en voormalige prostituee, die seksueel geobsedeerd raakte door haar baas
Niet direkt een kerstfilm, maar ik beloof u genoeg drank in huis te hebben om dat te vergeten.

Zoals jullie ondertussen weten, raken we snel volzet dus indien u zich wilt verzekeren van een plaatsje: even een mailtje naar info@lamaitressedupirate.be.
Kunt u er niet bij zijn, dan lukt het misschien wel voor onze vierde editie op 21 januari 2011.

Ook in januari, en wel op vrijdag de 28ste, nodig ik u graag uit voor WANNA PLAY?
Een BDSM- en fetish avond met drank, hapjes, speel- en feestmogelijkheden.
Verwacht u aan een concert van Saint Marteau, een lustenkabinet waarin u wordt ondergedompelt door onze Piratinnen, de Gassmask-touch-machines, Faster Pussycat + Le Marquis achter de draaitafel en nog meer prikkelends.
Omdat goed geklede mensen altijd leuk zijn om naar te kijken, vragen we u onze dresscode te respecteren: fetish, bdsm, 30’ gangsta, burlesque, gala, smoking...zolang u zich maar mooi en sexy voelt en wij de neiging krijgen u op te eten.
Een mailtje naar info@lamaitressedupirate.be als u me wilt verblijden met uw aanwezigheid.

Om af te sluiten meld ik u nog graag even mijn gastcolumnistenschap op het internet tijdschrift www.bonoboz.be en indien u op de hoogte wilt blijven van mijn mening over het reilen en zeilen in BDSM-land, neem ik u graag mee naar mijn blog, en wel hier http://lamaitressedupirate.blogspot.com

La Maîtresse du Pirate en ikzelf wensen u alvast een kleurrijke, warme herfst toe en hopen u snel in levende lijve te ontmoeten.

Fleur Pierets

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Dear members of La Maîtresse du Pirate

The second edition of La Maîtresse au Cinéma is a fact and I can assure you, it was more than nice.
On Friday, the 17th of December, we’ll give you ‘L’empire des sens’. A movie based on a true story set in pre-war Japan, a man and one of his servants begin a torrid affair. Their desire becomes a sexual obsession so strong that to intensify their ardor, they forsake all, even life itself.
Not quite your average Christmas movie, but we will provide you with enough booze and atmosphere to think it is.
As you already know, we’re easily fully booked, so send me an email and I’ll save you one of our red velvet seats.
If you can’t make it that day, than maybe you can on the 21st of January 2011 for our 4th BDSM movie.

Also in January, on Friday the 28th to be exact, I would like to invite you to WANNA PLAY?
A BDSM and Fetish party with drinks, food, play & dance possibilities.
Expect a concert of Saint Marteau, a live lust cabinet with our female Pirates, the Gassmask-touch-machines, Faster Pussycat + Le Marquis behind the turntables and much more in order to keep your senses tickling.
Because it’s always nice to host well dressed people, we would like to ask you to stick to our dresscode: Fetish, BDSM, 30’ Gangsta, Burlesque, Gala, Smoking... as long as you feel pretty and we have to suppress the urge of eating you alive.
Send me an email on info@lamaitressedupirate.be if you would like to enlighten me with your presence.

Finally, I would like to inform you about my guest column on the internet magazine www.bonoboz.be and if you interested in my opinion regarding the whereabouts in BDSM-land I’d like to refer to my blog: http://lamaitressedupirate.blogspot.com


La Maîtresse du Pirate wishes you a beautiful autumn and I hope to see you soon.

Fleur Pierets

Can I please Come, Please?

I received a phone call the other day. A reporter was asking me if I would collaborate on an item about female positive erotica.
Because I wrote a book, short erotic stories, didn’t I?
And since I’m a woman, it seems logic that I adjust myself towards other women? He ventured encouragingly.
And not to forget, I’m leading a BDSM organisation, that means I’m questioning female repression, don’t I?

I solemnly scratched my chin, and if his exposé wouldn’t be devoided of any humour, I would have asked him who was pulling my leg.

In order to keep the adrenalin going, let’s start at the beginning. I don’t write erotic stories. I write BDSM porn. A quite improvable genre, if you ask me. Please check out the internet, if you won’t take my word on it.

To be frank, I’m a porn fan. Porn is an interesting exercise in exploring the roles of exhibitionists and voyeurs. I love those sweaty tits & asses and get a lot of inspiration out of an undressed postman or a pizza delivery gone wild.
Keeping this in mind, it couldn’t surprise you that I didn’t need a lot of encouragement to do some research on the subject of female positive porn in both literature and movies.
Quite soon, Oscar Wilde kept popping in my head: “There are no such things as moral or immoral books. There are just good or badly written books”.
Indulge me to rephrase that quote into “There is no such thing as male or female porn. There is just good or bad porn.”

Is it after all just some kind of marketing stunt to glue the “from women towards women” label?
Asking my girlfriends, I could merely grin because without even the slightest sign of uneasiness, they told me their preferebilities.
Girlfriend number 1 loves straight man-on-woman porn but loves it when one man gets replaced by another without a blink of an eye. Number 2, very hetero in day life, prefers gay movies with a lot of use of leather masks. And finally girlfriend number 3 admits that the “Strap-on” category on Porn hub is a regular stop on her sexual surfing itinerary.

So I wonder, are those “likes” male or female? The only solution I can filter is that there is no such thing. Not only are we talking about a non existing phenomenon, I also get quite sad to think of it, that a lot of people find it necessary to make that kind of difference.
It shows that the combo man-woman-sex, is a lost case and that both sexes will never understand each others needs.
A very depressing thought, if you ask me.

A few weeks ago, we received an invitation for an event called “A sultry Sunday soiree with Madison Young”.
The pregnant porn and fetish actress made an Amsterdam stop before heading towards the porn festival in Berlin. In a lovely villa, in the presence of 50 other invitees, we listened to her lecture about Fempositive porn. A number 1 item on her companies’ mission statement.
No cuddling, nor some girlyness towards our sensitive and easily shocked women’s hearts, but a fight for the rights of female porn stars. The necessity of giving those women enough ànd clear information about the do’s and don’ts in porn industry and the consequences on their personal lives. And especially (and I like this one) their right of also having an orgasm during a movie shot.
It was no tongue in cheek lecture but an honest approach towards gender quote in the industry.

And yes, that’s what I call a positive evolution. Equal sex rights for men and women. And not some shot in the dark from a supposable clever marketing boy.

The respectable rise and shine of coffee-table erotica.

Let me tell you about our act de présence at the annual book fair in Antwerp. http://www.boekenbeurs.be/
Yes, dear foreign blog readers, we wrote a book. It’s a selection of 12 short stories about BDSM. Both women and men share their fantasies and experience on the subject matter with you. Unfortunately it’s only available in Dutch, but we are working on the translation.
http://www.lamaitressedupirate.be/uk/PublicatiesVUHL.html


Lately we’ve been slapped around with books about sex. Removing it from its sleazy wrapping and slamming it down on the coffee table instead.
So here we are. Are we pioneers? No. Do we care? Even less.
Let’s quote Dian Hanson, the sex book editor at Taschen, on this: “We are proud of what we do and treat art and pornography with the same reverence. In fact, the bigger the slut, the glossier the finish . We pull out all the stops for a risky subject.”
I admit, the last part is quite blunt, but why shouldn’t we applaud when we hear things like that? In a world where censorship still rules, I find it more and more necessary to write and talk about what makes us tick regarding sexuality.

Some people ask me why I find it necessary to make BDSM socially acceptable. It’s not because I’m trying to be shocking or because sex sells. Some tell me that they finally know that there is nothing wrong with them, that they just have an unusual approach towards sex. When I reflect on that, then I don’t think that BDSM is something that should be kept behind closed doors, in the privacy of the bedroom or the occasional Sm cellar. In my opinion, BDSM is a disposition, like homosexuality. And where would we stand if that was still not discussable.
We can avoid a lot of frustration and alienation by making it approachable. Like a mirror, that doesn’t reflect but absorbs.

Meanwhile, me and my co-writers were pretty salonfähig at that book fair. Listening to people who told me that they loved what we did and that it opened their eyes. So tell me, who would not nourish those words.

Fetish Festival 31/10/2010

To be honest, I was holding my breath when I entered the caves of Cureghem.
A little to suspicious to throw myself - without being judgemental - into the first Fetish Festival in Belgium because frankly, it has the same founder as the erotica beurs, which I do-not-like.

But, credit where credit is due, it was fun & warm & nice & lovely.

It's not easy to please both fetishists and BDSM lovers, but the organisers and exhibitors succeeded by being very approchable towards curious visitors, men-with-camera-in-hand-at-all-times and established players.
So we opened shutters and peeked behind curtains to capture it all.

Fetish clothing, stainless steel jewelry, bondage artists, photographers and info stands about BDSM, including workshops. Not to everyone's taste perhaps, but then that's the attraction of a naughty festival.

The party started at midnight with a fashion show. No top models, but girls like you and me in a nice packaging. An extra attention for choreography wouldn't be superfluous though. Same for the performances; a little more preparation might be adequate for smoothing the path of seduction.

But hey, those are teething details. I've seen drag queens, leashed women & men, latex lovers, lesbians, gays, leather & foot fetishists, burlesque girls and little nurses. All in one room, all feeling at ease and comfortable. So in my opinion, that kind of beauty is more than you can wish for on a first edition.

Stay on the scene, because I have the feeling, that this will be even better next year.